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Long-term relationships are difficult. The love and the respect for each other are still there, but as you have become more accustomed to being around the other person, and you now feel that you know everything about them and their interests, it can seem that there is no mystery anymore.
Once the honeymoon phase of a relationship is over, the passion and sparks are often replaced with routine and comfort. To keep things fun and interesting, even years or decades down the line in your relationship, there are several things that you could try in order to reignite the romance. Here’s how:
Go On Date Nights
Everyone loves that stage at the beginning of a relationship where you cannot wait for your weekly date to see your partner. While you are still trying to win your partner over, you’ll likely come up with all sorts of weird and wonderful ideas of things to do and places to check out.
Just because you have been together a while now, doesn’t mean that that has to stop. Try to organize a date night once every week, take it in turns to select the venues and the activities, and continue to have fun doing new things with your partner.
Keep Things Interesting in the Bedroom
As things can become a little familiar in your relationship in general, they can also become a little too familiar in the bedroom. Don’t fall into a sex slump of doing the same old routine.
Don’t be afraid to talk with your partner about your fantasies, to experiment together with completely new things, and to do little things to keep the passion alive. This could even be something like sending flirty and seductive texts while your partner is out or away.
Transform Your Bedroom into a Boudoir
Following along from the above, you want to ensure that your bedroom environment is a nice environment for you to be in. Think silk sheets, stylish designs, and fragrant candles rather than clutter, worn sheets, and a mess. Having a nice bedroom environment sets the mood for keeping your sex life alive and active.
Be Open with Your Partner
Many people are afraid of engaging in serious discussions with their partners or sharing their feelings on certain things in case they cause the other to get upset. However, if you cannot share your true feelings, and your deepest desires and worries with the person that you spend most of your time with, who can you talk about this stuff to?
An important part of a healthy relationship is being open with your partner. If something is concerning you, by laying the situation out on the table, you are able to address it and work together to achieve a solution. Discussing your concerns with your partner is far better than bottling everything up for later.
Give Each Other Space
Time apart in a relationship does not have to be looked at as being a negative thing. In fact, it’s perfectly normal and healthy to maintain lives and social circles outside of that which you share with your partner.
After all, no matter how much you love and adore someone, it can be a little overwhelming to be in their company all day every day. Time spent apart engaging in hobbies and activities individually can leave you feeling rejuvenated, so that you can come back to your partner refreshed and happier. This also gives you more topics for discussion and more inspiration for ideas of things that you could try together.
Make the time to check in with your partner frequently to see how things are from their perspective–both in terms of your relationship together, and their life as a whole. By checking in frequently, you can lessen the chances of arguments or partners feeling neglected. Checking in also ensures your partner that you care about their feelings and happiness.
Take a Vacation
Adhering to the same routine day in and day out can become boring and frustrating. When you are dating, you associate interactions with your partner with excitement. For example, trying new restaurants or visiting places that you have never been to before.
When you’ve been together a while, and especially if you live together, your interactions become more practical. Doing the grocery shopping together, debating whose turn it is to cook, etc. To avoid falling into a pit of boredom, try spicing things up by taking a vacation.
A vacation allows you a break away from your routine, and an opportunity to rekindle your passion with your partner and discover new things. Opting to stay at adults only resort also enables you to feel pampered and taken care of, so you have nothing at all to worry about aside from enjoying the time with your partner.
If you are looking for an intimate experience, make sure you’re doing your research ahead of time. Some resorts are designed for couples, while others are more family oriented. Family-friendly all-inclusive resorts are better to go to if you plan on bringing your kids with you, not for a romantic getaway.
Never Stop Showing You Care
It’s true when they say that it’s the little things that count. Making small gestures such as cooking a meal for your partner, lighting candles and drawing a bath for them when they get home from work.
Even something as small as complimenting them on their style or something they have recently achieved. These things may seem insignificant, but they go a long way in assuring your partner that you still care and notice the little things that they do.
In the end, your partner wants to know that you care about them. Sure, it might sound silly, but your partner still needs attention and reassurance from time to time. Don’t ignore the signs of a struggling relationship, and take these steps to get the romance back and better than before.
About The Author:
Kiley is a travel writer/lifestyle coach. She’s been all around the globe with friends and family. She hasn’t seen it all, but she’s seen a lot. She’s learned a lot too. Here are her tips, tricks, and guides to successful travel and relationships.