The statistics speak for themselves, the divorce rate is 45% in large urban areas. When you get married, these alarming figures do not make us back so far, we love it for life! Unfortunately, it is clear that in many cases the problems in our marriage are indeed waiting for you … So there is a way to cope and overcome? The answer is “yes” fortunately. But does he still want it and how to do it.
The basic rules are simple but essential.
Married life is shared in everyday life; an acceptance of the other, for his qualities and his faults is to have a fulfilling life in accordance with the expectations of the other without falling into the downward spiral of concessions. This is an effective but non-exhaustive communication. Everyone should keep his little secret and thus an element of mystery. Because in love, especially when it is shared in everyday life, you should know that nothing I ever purchased and it is not enough to escape the routine but also to see the other as a valuable asset that we were not given, but only said.
Khalil Gibran speaks better than anyone else in his book “The Prophet”
“(…) You are born together, and together you will remain forever. You will stay together when the white wings of death dissipate your life. Yes, you’ll stay together even in the silent memory of God. But leave spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of Heaven dance between you. Do you love each other, but love do not make chains: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill your cups for each other but do not drink in one cut. Give you bread to each other but do not bite in the same piece. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but each can be alone, as are only strings of the lute as they vibrate with the same music. Give your hearts, but not in the care of each other. As only life can contain your hearts in his hand. Keep the one with the other, but not too close to each other. For the pillars of the temple are distant from each other, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in the shadows of one another. “