Self-esteem is your most powerful asset. What are some ways in which you can strengthen, shore up, and even store self-esteem until later?
1. Why the Stillness of Your Mind is Your Most Powerful Asset
People who meditate and who are able to achieve stillness in their minds on cue have only a fraction of the stress that the rest of us do. Things like meditation, yoga, and any stillness-based discipline will be your most powerful assets when starting to build your self-esteem. A lot of low self-esteem comes from an internal dialogue that is hurtful and inaccurate. To hear the good around you, you must first be able to quiet these harmful voices.
2. The Three-Space Visualization Method
Sometimes, people suffer from not being able to fully separate themselves from negative circumstances or suffering people who are near them. A great way to create your own “safe space” is to visualize three energy fields. First, there’s one around the person or situation that is affecting you. Second, there is some middle energy field that is covering the distance between you and them. And third, there is an individual energy field that is surrounding you and you alone. You can picture these in different colors if you like. This creates a protected space for you so that you can gain some perspective and some distance.
3. Who is Number One? I am Number One
Did you know that selfishness and self-care are on opposite ends of the spectrum from each other? Self-care allows you to be generous with yourself first and with others when you have extra energy to spare. However, selfishness occurs when you deny yourself this care and end up having to “take” from others in order to satisfy your starved emotional needs. Don’t starve yourself. Instead, put your own self-care in number one position. Always fill your core needs first and then, if you have any overflow from this, you can benefit others with your care, as well.
4. The Compassion Project
This is a tool which is especially effective for extroverted people and for people who love to nurture others. The Avatar Course is available to everyone and involves showing compassion for other people. If you have difficulty expressing kindness to yourself, then practice a little with other people first. Later on, when you can muster a little energy for yourself, go ahead and show yourself some compassion, as well. This is a great course for parents teaching children about kindness, as well.
5. Stages of Unconditional Love (Self-Love and Animals)
Not everyone is accustomed to the concept of unconditional love. Perhaps you have received too much “conditional” love in your life that this feeling is unfamiliar to you. If so, then find a way to show yourself a little bit of unconditional love, even if it’s not very much. Think of something that only you can do and that only you are really good at. Praise yourself throughout the day for this amazing ability of yours. If unconditional self-love still requires too much energy from you, then get a furry pet. Dogs have the oxytocin bonding chemical in them, so they are a great way to start practicing with the concept of unconditional love. When you love yourself the same amount that your dog does, you’re in good standing.
6. Community Dilution and Isolation Intensity
Those darn internal dialogues! Sometimes, you can dilute the intensity of your thoughts by purposely engaging in group therapy, group activities, group sports, or just hanging out with a nightly group of friends. It is when you are isolated (this even applies to hardcore introverts) that your thoughts can become too intense for your reality and you need to dilute them again. Make sure that you purposely and specifically schedule group activities for yourself at least several times a week to dilute the intensity of your thoughts.
7. Personal Accomplishment Makes You Feel like a Creator God
Becoming good at new sport, learning a new skill, or simply watching educational television can all help you feel accomplished in your life. Think National Geographic channel, not documentaries that you don’t care about. Get involved with a new task that is presented in such a way that you can have small wins throughout the process and feel good about yourself. This continues to make you feel accomplished and pretty soon, you have something new to do with your friends or to put on your resume.
8. An Activity Just For You
If you feel that everyone in your life is involved with all parts of your business, you can make yourself feel special by doing an activity that is just for you. Gardening, blogging, note taking, people watching, or just taking a walk in a private meadow. If you share this with new friends, then you have a little world of your own, but you don’t have to do that. It can be a special activity that you do all by yourself.
9. The Fractal Patterns in Nature are Soothing and Whole and Complete
If your mind constantly feels disrupted and disoriented, then you should definitely go outside and spend a lot of time being completed surrounded by nature. The endless fractal patterns in nature are extremely soothing to the soul and they help to organize and fixate your mind on clarity and constructive observation.
10. Find Good Family and Bond with Them
Perhaps you don’t have very positive or uplifting family members around you. Chances are, you have some good family nearby, anyway. Find family members you can get along with really well and start to form a good, strong, lasting relationship with them. This not only fixes your family problem but it also helps you feel warm, safe, loved, respected and like you come from good genes. It can be stressful to think that you don’t carry genes that you respect, so bonding with a positive family member who understands you can make all the difference in the world.
Self-esteem is really important. Do whatever it takes to get it back. Engage in activities that you look forward to on a daily basis.
About The Author:
Stacey Smith is a freelance health writer. She is passionate to write about women’s health, dental health, diabetes, endocrinology and nutrition and provide in-depth features on the latest in health news for medical clinics and health magazines.